Arranged Marriage

(Picture of my dear Cousin and her Husband Now settled in US.)

WE all have heard of dating but here is a new term in 21st century matrimony. Its called "Arranged dating."

Gone are the days when parents provided the conventional resolution to the question of finding the ideal match. In that day and age you would be thanking your stars to meet your match once alone before making the final decision.

But nowadays, thanks to women's liberalisation, they ensure that they get to meet the guy alone at least 3-5 times so that they can figure if they are compatible or not.
Compatible, well that's a strange word.

Dictionary meaning-
1) Capable of orderly, efficient integration and operation with other elements in a system with no modification or conversion required
2) Capable of existing or performing in harmonious or agreeable combination.

Well I guess Shaadi.com believes the same. Their website quotes.

"A successful marriage requires a mix of Compatibility, Chemistry, Commitment, Community, Communication and Compassion."

Is it that easy? Think of it, how will someone know in 3-5 meetings and maybe a dozen of phone conversations that they are compatible to the other person.

Well also, at the outset, you probably are not prepared and brush through the first couple of meetings not knowing that you missed the bus.

Well according to me, if the person is caring enough, then he/she would go out of the way to make the other person happy. I believe opposites attract. Think about it, looking for your soulmate aint going to be that easy. It’s a game of instinct.

However there are some tips to make it happen for you. Golden rule is to make the person enjoy meeting you. He/she has to look forward to meeting you. If you are not interesting, funny, witty, then obviously its less obvious for you to hit it off. The reasons could be different. One person could just go on instincts, the other would see if they really gel well with the other. But at the end of the day, they have to agree on each other.

I spoke to a friend and he said whenever he met a girl he would take 5-6hrs chatting up with her in a hotel coffee shop or a fancy restaurant.My jaw dropped at the thought, as I thought that was a long time for one to talk about anything with a stranger. Me, being really shy talking with a stranger(meeting for the first/second time) it would have been almost impossible.

So was I not prepared for these exchanges, or there was something horribly wrong with this friend of mine. Well, time doesn't matter as long as both people enjoy each other's company and their is a mental/emotional connect between them.

Then there are others who fret on small things and decide that its not their cup of tea. Let me give you an example.A friend met someone through his relatives. They met up 2-3 times and then the girl asks if the guy loved his parents, and then asked if he was alright about moving out of his parents house. The guy flipped at the question and decided the girl was not for him.Then again, one classic incident happened when a girl rejected saying the guy was the same height and hence, it would be tough for her to wear sandals with heels.

In this fast changing online world, where you can find your partner on the click of a mouse, However, personal exchanges and dates still make sure your decision online, doesn't get you trapped offline in the real world.

So go out there & Happy Searching!!